Road Rage

Have you ever done something dangerous in the car when the adrenaline shoots through your veins when you are fifteen minutes late to your life? I know I have. Being late is a huge trigger for most of us given our busy, stressed, and over scheduled lives.

When speeding is your normal go to, it can be rage producing to be behind someone driving like a snail.
As a therapist, I see the nicest people admit to having road rage. Emboldened by a huge hunk of metal, we feel invincible in our cars.

When speeding is the norm, it is hard to slow down. We never have enough time so we can see why almost all car accidents are due to human error. Even when you are not the aggressor, when provoked, people retaliate with road rage.

You can make your commute a meditation. Often we resist mental health practices like meditation because they cause us to slow down and feel. Need more me time in your life? Who doesn’t? Learn how to get intentional and come to enjoy being trapped in the car.

Radical acceptance is the way to take your long commute from deadly to heavenly. Learn to self soothe, breathe, and enjoy your time on the road.

I will totally admit I am not a morning person and am chronically five minutes late. My worst mommy melt downs typically involve getting out the door with my kiddo. That is a great way to ruin the rest of the day and perpetuate a shame spiral.

Traffic stress is inevitable. My Motto is “If you can’t make it better, don’t make it worse.”

Whenever we experience anger, it is all about our goals being blocked and out need being unmet. So our goal to get to work or school is being blocked by the sea of cars eliciting feelings of being trapped. Cue coffee and adrenaline for a heightened fight and flight response.

TOP TEN SKILLS FOR PEACEFUL ROAD WARRIORS

BREATHE- Take deep breathes to prevent panic.
PLAN AHEAD- Give yourself an extra 15 minutes.
INTENTION- Affirm that you can get there versus chanting “I’m going to be late.”
ACCEPTANCE- When you are really late, there is nothing you can do but be late.
MINDFULNESS- Breathe, Slow down, and Less Judgment.
LESS JUDGMENT-Don’t make yourself a bad person for having a bad day. Let that shit go.
SOCIAL SUPPORT- Use a life line. Phone a friend to pass a long commute.
OPPOSITE ACTION- Anger begets anger. Don’t let yourself act out your road rage. Road rage is responsible for 30 deaths a year, not worth it.
SELF SOOTHE- Do something fun. Listen to music or a podcast to calm down.
MANIFEST- Build momentum by asking for help from your spirit guides and affirm “I am always on time.”

Drug Companies and the Medicalization of Mental Health

Nowadays, most Americans are feeling a mixture of anxiety and depression symptoms. Drug companies benefit when your modern day angst and unhealthy lifestyle is labeled as disease. Popping pills rather than looking at mental health triggers is profitable and easy. If you think your condition is a disease, you will be more likely to seek medication.

You can take control of your mental health! The trifecta of best practices in treatment may include medication, but also calls for psychotherapy and regular exercise. Hitting the gym vs. the couch and seeking therapy vs. exclusively medication is hard work! Hard work pays off, but takes more effort than medication.

A MAGIC PILL IS NOT A CURE ALL. IN FACT, IT MAY MAKE YOU FEEL NOTHING AT ALL.

I will totally own my bias as someone who is holistic and a therapist. I use medication and meditation. Often, the patients I meet with in my office are desperate for a cure due to having repeated failed medication trials. Asa result, they will try anything once, including holistic therapies. Solution focused therapy and healing techniques do not have side effects, however they do require effort.

My Motto is LESS PILLS, MORE SKILLS.

I am NOT into pill shaming. Some people need medication, particularly based on type of disorder. I do NOT believe everyone needs medication. Now, we all DO need better coping skills for toxic culture. When anxiety and depression become the norm, we need to look at what craziness is going on in the culture.

TOP TEN SKILLS FOR BETTER MENTAL HEALTH

  • EXERCISE- May be as effective as anti-depressant with consistent aerobic exercise.
  • DRINK WATER- Helps release negative emotions. Try for 8 glasses.
  • THERAPY- Try skills based therapy like CBT, DBT, ACT.
  • SLEEP- Sleep deprived can be similar to being drunk. Try for at least seven hours.
  • MINDFULNESS- Breathe, Slow down, and Less Judgment.
  • LESS JUDGMENT-Be nice to yourself! Don’t be in an abusive relationship with yourself.
  • SOCIAL SUPPORT- Make sure you have a kind, supportive system
  • HOLISTIC SKILLS- Try something new vitamins, Reiki, Acupuncture, and Massage
  • BREATHE- Google square breathing for anxiety management.
  • CELEBRATE- Build momentum with positive affirmation.